Caleb Shomo opened up the moment he knew he was ready to come out to his wife Fleur Shomo.
“I was in the shower and I was trying to convince myself to say something, like I had done many times before. And luckily I slapped myself. I was like, ‘It’s about damn time,'” the 33-year-old Beartooth frontman said on the Wednesday, June 10, episode Katie Maloney And Dayna Kathan‘S “Disrespectful” Podcast. “And then I said something to my then-wife about how I feel about men and how I’ve never really allowed myself to explore that. But I have to tell you, I can’t help it. And it was just a long way from there.”
During a trip to Palm Springs, Shomo decided to open up about his sexuality to Fleur, 32, after feeling “so safe” to share his true thoughts.
“I never allowed myself to explore any of these paths as best I could in my non-dreaming state of mind,” he recalls. “I’m doing everything I can to keep it the fuck at bay.”
Fleur Shomo was by husband Caleb Shomo’s side long before his public coming out. Caleb and Fleur first got together in 2010 and tied the knot two years later. Since then, Fleur has been by Caleb’s side while he played in the band Attack Attack before becoming Beartooth’s frontman. In May 2026 Caleb came (…)
Shomo also shared that he was “afraid” to acknowledge the feelings he had suppressed for so many years.
“I was just bawling my eyes out and trying so hard to put it into words, and I have a really hard time putting things into words,” he admitted. “And this is obviously such an intense thing and I feel so nervous and scared about the situation that it was really, really difficult to express and I didn’t express it very well. I tried my best. I’m trying to give myself grace and understand that it’s a journey.”
Shomo was able to explain to Fleur that he had feelings for men and had been “running from” that idea for a long time.
“I don’t think I want to run anymore,” he recalled of their personal conversation. “Then the damn hinges were ripped out.”
After coming out, Shomo felt like everything “made sense” and some of the negative feelings he had toward himself began to dissipate.
Last month, Shomo opened up about his sexuality in a public statement.
“There has been a lot of speculation about my personal life lately and I feel compelled to set the record straight before it further affects those I love. I am a proud gay man,” the musician wrote on Instagram in May. “This is something that I have been dealing with and reckoning with in my life for quite some time. It has been difficult to come to terms with the feelings surrounding the issue and figure out what to do with this fact.”
Shortly after Caleb’s post went viral, Fleur expressed her support for him.
“Our nearly 14 years of marriage have been wonderful and full of fun, adventure and love. No one will know anything about our marriage like we do. And no one can ever truly know how deep the love between two people is unless those people are those people,” she wrote in part via Instagram at the time. “I already miss it and my husband more than anything. Our story was good. And now it’s done.”
Looking back, Caleb feels “good” where he is now and is proud of living his truth. However, he was surprised by some of the reactions he saw online.
“I’m very happy I did it and it feels like I’m lifting a weight,” Caleb said Wednesday. “But at the same time, it was so eye-opening and kind of scary to realize how many people are deeply against it and against being gay in general. Not to mention the situation I’m in, the music scene I’m in, and honestly, my life before that.”
